Why Social Media Makes me Feel Like a Hot Mess Mom
Who doesn't love all of these flipping amazing videos out there on the internet expressing the woes of mom life in the most hilarious of ways? We all love them!! Because......
On the flip side there is also a whole lot of stuff out there that sometimes makes you feel like you suck. Your outfits aren't cute enough, your house isn't clean enough, your kids look dirty as hell compared to these other kids on Instagram, your kids aren't involved in enough activities... you get the point.
I am guilty of falling into both categories. I post stuff on social media that I think often gets viewed as more of a highlight reel, but also follow a lot of social media accounts that make me feel like a total slobfest. Like why do I not have full hair and make up done in an adorable athleisure outfit, while driving my kids to school in a clean coordinating outfits with combed hair and clean mouths?
The reality is I am rushing out the door in some cheap leggings from Kohl's, a tee shirt, whatever flip flops are near the door, I just barely brushed my teeth, and sprayed my head with some dry shampoo (for like the third day in a row). Meanwhile, my kid wanted to wear his dirty Spiderman shirt AGAIN so we settled on ninja turtles because it was clean, but his mouth is sticky and he hasn't had a haircut in weeks and my kitchen floor is dirty, real dirty. So we hop in to my equally disastrous mini van and get to school...15 minutes late.
So how do we balance it? How do we keep ourselves sane? Do we say f-you social media? I honestly only got on social media when I started my blog (which is a hobby by the way and in no way a job for me right now). So do I just say peace out?
It's not even just the appearance stuff. Even Facebook feeds with people posting all of this fun stuff they are doing with their kids. Sometimes if we just chilled at home on a weekend or took a trip to Lowe's I feel like oh crap what a slacker we should have been at some damn festival or museum!
I never considered myself an insecure person but not going to lie, social media is beating me up a little bit!! I read an article recently that included the following quote by Teddy Roosevelt, "comparison is the thief of joy". Amen, Teddy, A-MEN.
I like social media though. I have been inspired by it, have met many cool people through it, and enjoy seeing the joys in other people's lives.
So I suppose the answer is as simple as the word moderation and the cliche "take it with a grain of salt". I have toned down my blogging and Instagram posting because it was taking away from my family in ways I did not ever intend for it to do so.
So I will leave you with another cliche, "don't always judge a book by it's cover". It is fun to post all the "good stuff", but at the end of the day we have to live our lives even if it is in dirty clothes, mascara that's been on for three days (you know when you just keep wiping under your eye with the tissue and think ok it doesn't look so bad now), and sans fresh flower arrangements on clean sparkly countertops.
You do you, moms.